To be or not to be....

I really hate being such a negative person all the time. I believe that if someone is so negative that something in their life is just not right. The task is discovering what that something is and changing it; even if it could be a life altering change. Until someone is ready to make that change, no one can tell them what they know should be done. A person has to come to that conclusion on their own and when the time is right, that change can and will happen. I speak from experience. For years I was miserable. I felt like I was at a dead end and there was no hope. I spent many days crying to my friends who, regardless of their opinion, usually just listened to me and tried to comfort me. What a wonderful thing to have so many caring friends. After living in a life where I didn’t feel like I belonged or in some cases, didn’t want to belong, I decided that I needed to dig deep down into my gut and get the courage to express just how I felt. This did not mean yelling and screaming but actually, quite the opposite. I spent a lot of time confronting the problem and crying. In the end, I found the strength that I needed and I was able to change the thing that was bothering me most. Does that always mean that people are going to make the right decisions and that every change will be for the better? Possibly, but there is never a guarantee. I feel that we all choose our own destiny. We pave the way of our lives. If we choose to be miserable then we will be miserable. If we choose to be happy, then we will have joy. This reminds me of an email that I received where a man was dying and he could see it in the doctor’s eyes. He made the decision that he was going to live and stated that decision to the doctor. What a positive attitude we can learn from that. Believe me, if you are faced with this issue, it will not be easy but rest easy in knowing that there are people around you that love you and care for you. It won’t hurt to use them as a crutch and you will find that most are willing to help. I still have faith that most people out there are good people. It doesn’t matter what they look like or how they dress. What matters is what is in their heart and in their soul. Look at the outpouring of help the victims of 9-11 or Katrina or the Tsunami received. We live in a society where generosity is still in abundance. So, I choose to be happy. I know that I have a road ahead of me that may be difficult but I take comfort in knowing that I have friends that will help me through. And for that, I am thankful.